Four years ago today my life changed forever! May 2018 was one of the craziest months in my 37 years on the planet. May has always been a strange month for me as in 2005 a good friend of mine killed himself, I always remember at the time Dave was the first person I had ever truly lost, it hit me like a ton of bricks, and I took it particularly badly because for a time I blamed myself, you see that night Dave was supposed to be staying at my house as we had football in the morning and like most Saturday nights we shared a passion for dancing on the dance floors of Grantham before turning up to football hungover. I had been out in Lincoln that night on a double date and was supposed to be meeting Dave out in Grantham to finish the night, when I got back to Grantham I was shattered and after only 30 mins in the club, I asked Dave if he would mind heading home tonight as I was going to go home early, the rest, as they say, is history….
5 years ago in May, I married the woman who has somehow managed to put up with me for 15 years, 1 year later on the 9th of May we said goodbye to my Mum, it was hard, it is still hard but I know that she is at peace and no longer in pain. We had a beautiful service for her which was perfect, she would have loved it. It was so nice to see so many people there to support us and to celebrate her life. My Mum was an amazing woman who did so much for me and my family, she was always there for us no matter what and I am so grateful to have had her in my life. 2 days later my son was born, life truly does come at you fast and hard sometimes, it’s easy to see how these life events can derail and knock some people off course, therefore for me May is bittersweet.
But I am so grateful for everything that May has given to me, good and bad. Dave’s death taught me the value of life and how precious it is, it made me realise that we are not here forever and that we should make the most of every day. My Mum’s death showed me the strength of my family and how much we all rely on each other, it also made me appreciate just how lucky I am to have such a supportive wife. And my son’s birth, well that was just the best thing that has ever happened to me, he has brought so much joy and happiness into my life, he is my little diamond.
So today I reflect on all that May has given to me over the years and I am grateful for it all, the good and the bad because without it I would not be the person I am today.
Happy birthday, my little man, I love you so much!
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