Wanting material goods Is fine, as long as you want them for the right reasons.. I used to be THAT GUY! you know the type, the guy that wears the flashy clothes, the flashy watches and drives the car he can’t really afford, and I did it all for you! Out of some unrealistic expectation that by having all those things, this will somehow make people like me, its like being at school isn’t it? all the popular kids have the best things, you know the best phones, the best clothes, the best shoes – I always remember at school wanting a pair of Kickers shoes, but my mothers bless her just couldn’t afford them, I was desperate for a pair! thinking that if I could only get these shoes maybe I would become more popular.. silly right? But this is how we are… As fallible humans we are so consumed with what other people think about us, that we often do things to project an image that isn’t often us, we project what we think the world wants to see. Through this year of discovery I have learned that non of it matters, nobody cares about you as much as you think so stop playing to the crowd, stop listening to the noise.
I have been reading a lot about Stoic Philosophy recently, according to Stoics all people are manifestations of the one universal spirit and should live in brotherly love and readily help one another. Stoicism teaches the development of self control and fortitude as a means of overcoming destructive emotions; the philosophy holds that becoming a clear and unbiased thinker allows one to understand the universal reason. What this means to me put simply is that I have learnt to ignore outside influence and just focus on me and what makes me happy. This isn’t to say that I will now not buy material things, but now I feel I am in a space where I am buying them for the right reason, the reason that I want or like it the item as opposed to “this item may make me look better” remember this… nobody cares more than you that you are sat in first class, so why take the selfie.
The take away for me has been; trying to make less emotional decisions, try to focus more on me and what I truly want, but importantly try to help others, this is why Nobody Cares About Dad was born, with the sole aim to help others. This past year speaking to men and women all over the world has helped open my thinking to a whole different level, taking on bits of advice from people as I have gone, Its been reinvigorating for my soul.
The bible says in Matthew 7:12 – “So in everything, do unto others what you would have them do to you” wouldn’t the world be a much better place if people actually behaved this way?
Stay blessed everybody and have a fantastic day.
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