Firstly before I go on let me just give a huge shoutout to all the single mums out there, you guys are doing a fantastic and extremely difficult job, I watched as my mother raised 4 kids on her own for virtually most of my life, the courage and determination that women showed I’m sure is echoed across homes up and down the globe. Doing things on your own isn’t difficult but raising kids alone shouldn’t be the way it has to be, but unfortunately many women find themselves in this position.
But this post is about single fathers, I’m not talking about dead beat dads that have left these amazing women I have just mentioned , I’m talking about the single fathers that are being banned from seeing their children, the guys that if they don’t play ball with their ex they will be stopped from seeing their kids, the guys that have to watch another man live with their kids whilst they are only allowed them every other weekend, these are the single dads I am talking to.
I can’t think of anything worse than not being woken up each morning by my little man, so I can’t even begin to imagine what it’s like going through a situation where you are told you’re “not allowed” to see your kids.
I know there will be men out there struggling to cope with not seeing their children, fathers desperate to give their kids a hug or read them a book. I get messages from dads all the time telling me of this struggle and its heart breaking to read. You’ve got to keep trying, don’t give up, your children will thank you for it eventually, Maybe not with words but with their smiles. Father for justice are a fantastic organisation and a great source of help for anyone in need of it, Jason Hatch tied himself to Buckingham Palace dressed as Batman so you don’t have too!
So fellas if your in need of support reach out to your fellow men, don’t be afraid to ask for help, don’t make a wrong decision born out of frustration and fear, your kids need you, your friends need you, maybe you can’t see the wood for the tree’s but it’s there, there is another way , another route.
“You are not a burden you are not a disappointment you are beautiful, life is beautiful” – la vita è bella.
So many men unfortunately take a different route, so many men think the only way out is well, you know what it is… I read an article recently about a guy in his 30s that killed himself at Christmas, just gone because he couldn’t afford to buy his children presents. He felt like a disappointment and a burden to them, reading these sort of stories fills me with great sadness, I don’t even know the guy yet I wish I could do more to help others with the same struggles.
Guys we must become better at spotting the signs when our friends or colleagues are struggling, when you see someone in the shadows show them the light, we must all collectively help open that door, the door on its own can be difficult to push but together, together we can be freed.
Stay blessed everybody and have a fantastic day.
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